The Tragic Loss of Liam Payne: A Heartfelt Reflection and Call for Kindness

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Today, we mourn the loss of a beloved artist, Liam Payne, a former member of One Direction, whose sudden and tragic passing has left many of us shocked and heartbroken. At just 31 years old, Liam fell from the third floor of the Casa Sur Hotel in Buenos Aires, Argentina. His death has left a void in the hearts of his family, friends, and millions of fans around the world.

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Liam's life in the public eye was not without its challenges. In recent years, he struggled with personal battles, including well-documented issues with alcoholism in 2023. In 2024, before his tragic death, his ex-fiancée, Maya Henry, filed a lawsuit against him, accusing him of obsessive contact. These struggles were compounded by the pain of divorce from Cheryl Cole, the mother of his son, Bear, who is now seven years old. Liam’s life, once filled with the glitz and glamour of fame, slowly unraveled as he faced a whirlwind of allegations and public scrutiny.

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The police report from October 16th revealed that Liam may have been under the influence of drugs or alcohol when he fell to his death. The weight of his struggles seems to have finally taken its toll on him, and it is heartbreaking to think about the pain he must have been carrying in his final moments.

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It’s hard not to feel a deep sadness for Liam, knowing all that he endured before his passing— the divorce, the abuse allegations, and the backlash surrounding his plastic surgery. These things, though public knowledge, should remind us of the human being behind the headlines. His story is a poignant reminder that even those who seem to have it all can be struggling with unimaginable burdens.

As we reflect on Liam’s life and the tragic circumstances of his passing, I urge everyone online to take a step back and reflect on the power of their words. In a world where social media allows us to comment and criticize so easily, we sometimes forget that our words can hurt. Liam’s struggles, like those of so many others, were amplified by the intense pressure and judgment he faced from the public.

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Let this be a call for kindness. We never truly know what someone is going through behind the scenes. The celebrities we admire, the people we work with, the friends we chat with online—all of them deserve our compassion, not judgment. In a time where negativity can spread so easily, let us choose to spread kindness instead. Let's be more mindful of how we speak about others, especially when they are no longer with us to defend themselves.

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Rest in peace, Liam Payne. May we all learn from the struggles you faced and strive to make the world a little more compassionate for everyone.

- FASHION DOOHICKEy

The Victoria’s Secret 2024 Show: It’s Not About Objectification, It’s About Perspective

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The Victoria’s Secret show has been a point of contention for years, especially in light of movements like #MeToo and the evolving discussions surrounding female empowerment and representation. However, critiques often miss an essential point: the show does not objectify women—how you think about it might be the problem.

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The Power of Expression

Let’s begin with what the show actually represents. The Victoria’s Secret show, in its recent iterations, has gone beyond the traditional beauty standards that dominated fashion runways for decades. We saw supermodels of different body types, ages, and identities, including transgender models and older women. These models weren’t just walking to sell lingerie—they were reclaiming their spaces, expressing their individuality, and celebrating their bodies on their terms. If a woman chooses to express herself in lace, wings, or feathers, who are we to call that objectification? The real issue may be in the perception that women wearing lingerie is inherently degrading.

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The Fantasy Isn’t Universal, and That’s Okay

The argument that women "playacting" as presents to be unwrapped feeds into the narrative that women are dressing or acting for the male gaze. This line of thinking assumes that all lingerie or runway shows involving scantily-clad women are primarily designed for men, which erases the agency of the women involved. The truth is that many women enjoy wearing lingerie not to fulfill anyone else’s fantasies but to express their own sense of empowerment and confidence. It's a form of self-expression, not an invitation for objectification.

In fact, the VS show explicitly stated that “the women hold the reins.” This new chapter is about offering models and women a space to be celebrated on their terms, not the terms of male fantasy. If someone interprets these displays as objectification, it’s a reflection of their own ingrained biases rather than the intentions of the show.

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Representation Matters

It’s been noted that the latest show included more diverse body types and showcased a range of women, including trans models and older women. This is progress. This is representation. But the critique continues to undermine this effort, claiming that it is still about objectification. Why? Just because a woman is wearing lingerie doesn’t mean she’s a vehicle for male fantasy. It means she’s confident enough to own her body, no matter its size, shape, or age. Celebrating that is not regressive; it’s empowering.

What some critics fail to realize is that being empowered looks different for everyone. For some women, strutting down a runway in lingerie may feel like the pinnacle of empowerment—an assertion that they are comfortable in their skin and proud of their bodies. For others, it might look entirely different. But no one has the right to dictate what empowerment should look like for anyone else.

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It’s About More Than Clothing

The argument that the Victoria’s Secret show should be “retired” because it’s a “relic of another time” entirely dismisses the importance of progress in reclaiming spaces that were once considered problematic. The show has evolved, and so has its message. By featuring a variety of models and body types, it acknowledges the mistakes of the past and shows a commitment to growth.

Sure, the wings and the feathers may look like fantasy, but let’s not pretend that the fashion world isn’t built on fantasy and spectacle. Just because there’s a "giant bow" or "feathers" doesn’t mean it’s about men’s fantasies. Women, too, can dream in glitter and sequins, and women, too, deserve to revel in their own idea of beauty.

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Empowerment Is Subjective

Finally, let’s address the claim that "parading scantily clad bodies... down a runway is simply not about empowerment." This statement reveals more about the viewer than the show itself. Empowerment isn’t something that can be boiled down to one definition. For some women, wearing lingerie and walking down a runway might be objectifying; for others, it’s liberating. Who are we to say that their choice is invalid?

The real problem isn’t the lingerie or the wings—it’s the assumption that women can’t express themselves in certain ways without being sexualized or objectified. The Victoria’s Secret show has made strides toward inclusivity and diversity, but until we change the way we view these displays, we’ll keep circling back to the same tired argument.

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Conclusion

At its core, the Victoria’s Secret show isn’t about objectifying women; it’s about celebrating them in all their diverse beauty. It’s about reclaiming spaces once tainted by narrow beauty standards and offering a platform where different body types, ages, and identities can shine. It’s not the lingerie, the wings, or the runway that’s the issue—it’s how we, as viewers, interpret these displays. If you see objectification, perhaps it’s time to rethink how you perceive women and their choices. Empowerment comes in many forms, and it’s time we respected all of them.

- FASHION DOOHICKEy

So My Heart Dropped and Sank to the Ground. This is Couldn't Be Happening.

The long hiatus may seem like I am turning back on a lot of things that is related to fashion. But I just don't have the time and the drive to be all cheery and fashion-focused anymore. I started this blog way back in 2009 when I was still a teen obsessed with fashion and the fashion world. Don't get me wrong, I still love fashion that's probably why I had to come back today to post something that really struck a cord.

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When the New York Times entered my feed, I  couldn't believe what I was reading. I was so preoccupied with the thought of his passing that my thumb could no longer scroll the screen of my phone. There it was, in bold letters. Karl Lagerfeld, Dead.

I looked up to him and the many things he does. It amazes me that he was able to define luxury and how he stayed true to his craft for so many years. I am very sad to know that one of the top fashion  designers or our times are slowly fading away and are slowly being replaced with new legends. The thought of that alone couldn't escape my mind, I hang-on to so many classic fashion designers and am deeply disheartened to know that no one as good as him could ever replace the House of Lagerfeld and Chanel. *sigh

May his soul rest in peace, I mourn with the millions of fans and the many fashionists out there! We lost a star, we lost a legend, we lost Karl. I know that the fashion world could still recover but the fashion world will surely be different without him, without his taste, with out his avant-garde grandeur. I will surely miss looking forward to his designs, I will miss him being a relevant fashion-icon.  

Goodbye Karl, thank you! You were my inspiration growing up, you gave me so much to look forward to when I was still young and innocent of the world, you inspired me to pursue fashion and to really up my taste when it comes to understanding fashion for what it truly is, you ignited hope in my heart, and for that, I will  be forever grateful.

- FASHION DOOHICKEy

Ariana Grande and Her Sexy 'Let Me Love You' Music Video

I am not that much of a fan when it comes to Ariana Grande but her 'Let Me Love You' music video is just utterly too too! It's too cute for me to miss. Been searching for the music video on Youtube but it's not available there yet, maybe because of some copyright issues or whatnot. Anyhooha, here's her music video.

official clip of ''Let Me Love You '' - By @ArianaGrande (ft. Lil Wayne) #LetMeLoveYouVideo
https://t.co/0im2fLV7Xp

— teusDANGEROUSWOMAN (@ILYARlANA) May 16, 2016

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Fashion Doohickey

Gone Was Any Trace of You

Woke up early today to a cloudy sky. I ought to be out running but something about the weather made me skip my usual morning routine.

For months on end I had kept myself busy with work, business and a little bit of writing (this explains why I haven't really had any decent post lately), thinking that my emotions will die on me like a candle on a wick. 

Little did I realize that I was playing with fire. And like fire, if you don't deal with it immediately, it will catch up on you- swallowing you whole. 

This brings me to the importance of 'closure' in our lives; in little random things, like when we have ended a day's worth of task, our search for wisdom and understanding, or even from the relationships we all wish to move on from. Closure is important.

What's scary about the effects of not being able to achieve closure is the huge possibility of regret. Regret may be just a word to some of you, but to others, it was an emotion, a force so strong that t had the power to come back and haunt them for the rest of their lives. 

I have had my own fair share of regrets in my life. I would be crazy if I would say that I didn't have any. I had a handful of them, occasionally popping out on unsuspecting occasions, but I have learned to manage them all when I understood the importance of 'closure'.

If like me, you too have had a chance with this destructive emotion and learned to deal with it, I truly admire you. I can only imagine the inner personal things you had to go through to triumph over this emotion.

Today, I am once again meeting with this emotion, and I may still be in the dark and at a loss for the right mindset to deal with this subtle tragedy (and I may even still be dwelling in the moment), but I have set to myself the intention to believe that one day, when the time is right, I too will have my chance. I just had to feel everything right now, the good and the bad.

And I also need to learn to forgive myself for these untimely episodes in my life (sorry for ranting on this fashion blog). I know, the things I put myself into, right? It's hard, but I know deep down inside that it's the right thing to do, and when I have truly achieved this 'forgiveness' only then will I believe that I have achieved closure.

- FASHION DOOHICKEy